Why Men Say No To Sex!

We grew up being told that men are ready for sex no matter what time it is, what kind of day they have, how tired, hungry or upset they are. Well, I can only imagine the type of pressure they feel. And this tension can only create insecurities as well as make them swallow blue pills, instead of talking about their problems, just to avoid being labeled as bad lovers.

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Relationship Difficulties: Young couple having problems

Not to mention the fact that when they are refused, many women don’t even think that there might be something wrong with their partners. Since they know men are always up for kinky play, when a lady gets a “no”, she might instantly believe she is the problem.

I think we are all ready to understand that though they have their differences, men are not from Mars, but from Earth when it comes to depression, stress, tiredness or hard work. So, ladies how about cutting them some slack?

In case you want your partner in life to stand by you and understand you are not a sex machine, you better be honest. Sometimes, both men and women have no idea how many benefits honesty can bring them. Now, let’s talk about some of the issues that often put men’s little fellow to sleep.

Sometimes He Isn’t Fine

Depression is one of the people’s worst enemy in the present. I know many believe that if they don’t have a physical disease they don’t actually have a problem. Well, guess what? Depression affects both your mind and your body.

Women are more honest when it comes to clinical depression, but a large number of men try to hide their issues, believing that they should be strong and deal with it alone. But this is not possible. The first step is telling your partner, and then accept medical care because clinical depression is not something that just goes away.

He Doesn’t Always Manage to Worry Less and Limit Stress

Adult life comes with worries and stress for both men and women. Though men like to show the world that they can cope with all situations, things are not that simple. All stressful situations get to us at some point, no matter if we have a penis or a vagina.

So, you better admit that you are not Iron Man, and ladies, just how you can’t think about sex when you have problems at work, he might not be ready to satisfy you after he had an awful day. So, play nicely.

He’s Just Tired…That’s All

Though a little tiredness doesn’t come between people and their kinky desires, a lot of fatigue makes it impossible for men to have a good sexual performance. After a long day at work, it is not unusual to be physical incapable, especially if you’re day wasn’t easy, so how about being sincere about it?

Men Are Turned On By Success

Though we all know that success is not final and failure is far from being fatal, men are turned on by being successful. Now, you can guess the effect the lack of success has.
Ladies can easily feel sexy in a new dress and with a new haircut, but an impressive number of men tend to equate professional success with self-worth.

The She’s Drunk and He’s Sober Story

Having a drink and forgetting all about inhibitions is one thing, but getting drunk as hell and imagining the real woman inside you is gone and a goddess took her place is a whole different story.

I can’t stop laughing when I write this because it happened to me. I was absolutely sure that he said “no” to the sexiest thing alive but then I was shown a video. Oh well, what can I say? He said that having sex with somebody really drunk when they are sober makes men feel like their taking advantage of girls.

Also, if you ask me , after seeing me wasted, having sex with Medusa definitely seemed like a better idea.

What to Do When Men Say “No” to Sex?

Dealing with the lack of sexual desire is actually coping with the real issues that make men say no to sex. So, if you happen to experience any of the problems above, or others, make sure you share them with your companion. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you are partners only when it comes to sex and happiness.

At the same time, ladies, if your partner says “no” to your sexy moves, don’t jump to conclusions. As mentioned above, many women instantly think there is something wrong with their bodies or that their husbands or boyfriends are cheating.

I am not saying that all men are good, but before making a big deal out of it, try to find out and understand what is happening. Also, getting upset, fighting or not talking to them, might not help with the depression, stress or tiredness. Am I right, guys?

I am very interested in your thoughts regarding the reasons exposed above, as well as in other motives men have to say no to sex. So, how about sharing them by commenting in the box below? Sharing is caring after all.

Anna Smith

Anna Smith

Anna Smith entered the adult industry in 2015. From that moment on, she has become one of the foremost writers around, using her sex industry expertise to bring her readers many fun and fact filled articles.

She is most well known for her sex advice pieces, yet also has a major interest in sexual health and other serious issues. However, this is all done with a quirky style that is unmistakably hers.

When she isn't working, Anna is a fitness fanatic, and enjoys going away with her partner for various weekend trips.
Anna Smith

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