I am sure you already know the benefits brought to your sexual life by pornography. For many of you, Pornhub is just like Youtube is for the rest of us. But are you aware of the negative effects of watching porn?
Now, don’t get me wrong, nobody says that when you see a porn video you should close your eyes, run in a circle, scream or shout. But watching pornographic videos with frequency can affect you negatively as an individual and it can have an extremely unfavourable impact on your relationships.
Yes, I know you believe seeing two professional actors bang each other can teach you one or two things but, don’t you think you should know how this can affect your brain and sex life?
Life Is Tough. Sex is Rough
Life can be tough sometimes, and yes, sex too. But does it always have to be this way? Well, according to porn, sex is running for an orgasm. Yes, there’s no “love me tender, love me sweet” in the way porn stars get it and give it.
Remember when you used to delicately touch your partner and make love on a cold winter night? I bet none of you remembers, since the image of sex is profoundly mixed-up. Yes, we all love a hot quickie but…if you want to connect with each other you should replace “stalking the orgasm” with enjoying your bodies together.
Regular Sex Is So Boring
Isn’t it? Just like going out without getting drunk is for an alcoholic. And the worst part is that you get used to all the things you see, exactly how an alcoholic’s body gets used to his drink of choice and in need for something else, something much harder.
So, you are taught that sex is all about the body and in order to feel good you need something new, something stronger every time. While I strongly believe that spicing things up is fantastic, letting pornography make you forget about intimacy and human connection is the boring part.
Instead of losing yourself in the bedsheets with your partner or a person you like, you let porn tell you what your fantasies are.
Again, don’t get me wrong. Watching it once in a while never hurt anyone, but letting things out of control can end up killing your libido!
Why Are You Sexually Lazy?
Have you notice that in porn, everybody is always turned on? Of course, they are! That’s what the movie is all about, isn’t it? Well, real life is different and you should make a bit of effort to arouse somebody. People are not automatic!
So, if you want to completely satisfy somebody you should forget about the “more action and less foreplay” idea you get from your kinky movies. Jumping on somebody without notice is not sexy, or exciting. Life is just not a porn movie!
Porn Affects People Individually, Too
You might say, “ But what if I am single?”. Well, you don’t need to be married or to have a long-term relationship to be a disappointment in bed, do you? You watch porn but you have sex with women you date, you meet on Tinder or with sexy escorts not with the ones you see on screen.
Also, porn affects you as a person, not only the relations you have with others. From this addiction you end up being in a continuous search for something stranger and more perverted. Furthermore, it appears that men who watch an immense amount of porn tend to sexually objectify women and to tolerate abnormal behaviors like sexual aggression and even rape.
Creating an emotional connection with an artificial world cannot help you bond with real people. Unfortunately the fake relation and the idea that porn fulfills your deepest fantasies ends up in making people feel less emotional, with nothing else to enjoy.
Yes, like many other substances, porn creates an appetite for itself. And this is not about the right and wrong, but about the dangers watching porn on a regular basis can bring to people’s life. And the most targeted are young people.
Remember that sex is an action that connects people, not only through their bodies. I am not getting cheesy and I am not saying you have to be madly in love or in a long-term relationship to feel the human connection. Seeing a sexy courtesan can bring you the satisfaction of an emotional encounter whenever you feel lonely, as well.
However, if you expect all your sex sessions to be like on Pornhub, you are living “in your screen” man and no faithful wife, loving girlfriend or talented escort can save you from yourself. No, I am not against porn because it can really spice things up from time to time! However, just like everything else, it should be…used in moderation!
She is most well known for her sex advice pieces, yet also has a major interest in sexual health and other serious issues. However, this is all done with a quirky style that is unmistakably hers.
When she isn't working, Anna is a fitness fanatic, and enjoys going away with her partner for various weekend trips.
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