Why Do People Visit Dominatrixes?

There are so many reasons why somebody might decide that they want to spend some time with dominatrixes. For many they are curious about why this might be. Why would somebody want to be whipped, chained up, or humiliated by someone else?

Woman dressed in dominatrix clothes, from back.

The world of BDSM is huge. You can become a slave, be humiliated, be tied up and teased relentlessly. You can even have someone else take control of your money with financial domination if this is something you are interested in. So why do people choose to visit dominatrixes?

Can’t talk about their interests

For a lot of people they find it difficult to talk about their interests in the bedroom. So many people out there hate talking about sex. They feel that it is wrong to discuss sex because it is a very personal thing to do. This means that, by the time they get into the bedroom with someone, they might discover they are sexually incompatible.

Another reason people don’t feel that they can talk about their interests is because they haven’t yet built that relationship of trust with their partner. At the core of BDSM is trust. If you don’t trust your partner then it can be difficult to give yourself over to them so that they can control you. You don’t feel safe, and so people would much rather stay quiet about it.

The general response of the public to your interests might also put you off. How many times have you heard people talking about anal and saying that it is “a one way street only”? If they can pass these harsh judgements on something like anal, what might they think of your fetishes?

Talking about sex is tough for some people, which is why they'll seek professional help instead
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Rejected by a partner

Rejection is probably one of the reasons that people might choose to stay quiet about their interests and instead spend time with dominatrixes. Dominatrixes won’t judge you like your partner might, and they will only reject your suggestion if they believe they do not have the skills to fully play out your fantasy in a safe way.

Your partner, however, might react differently. You might build up the courage to tell them what you want, only to have them immediately go “ew, that’s disgusting!”. This rejection can hurt. It hurts a lot. It will leave you feeling as though your fetish is a horrific thing to enjoy.

It could even be that you have been rejected in the past! You might have tried to talk to your partner about your fetish, only to be rejected. It can put you off of talking about it with others, which is why many choose to visit a dominatrix instead.

Rejection by a partner can make it difficult to open up about sex
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Exploring with a professional

Dominatrixes are professionals. They aren’t going to laugh at your interests and ideas, and they will know exactly what to do to help you explore your fetish to the fullest. You’ll build up a relationship with them based on trust, making a date with a dominatrix the safest environment for you to discover how your kinky ideas play out.

They are the best people to spend time with. Dominatrixes have a lot of skills and so will know how best to explore your fetish. This means that they’ll know the safest way to do so. They’ll take care of you while also making you feel as though you are being dominated and pushed to your limit.

You’ll set a safe word with them, and when you feel the need to use it, they’ll listen and act accordingly. You can then talk about why you used the safe word and what they can do to make the experience better for you. Even if you reach your limit and don’t say the safe word, many dominatrixes can recognise when things have gone too far and stop. You really are in safe hands.

Dominatrixes are professionals, meaning you are in safe hands
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Why we love dominatrixes

Spending time with dominatrixes means that you are in the hands of a professional when it comes to exploring your fetishes. You don’t have to deal with the judgement of others for your kinky interests, and because they are professionals they will know the safest ways to fulfil your fantasies.

These are only a few of the reasons why someone might choose to visit a dominatrix. We are sure that there are many more we have not touched on, so why not help us out? Tell us why you visit a dominatrix by leaving a comment in the box below.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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