Can You Have Great Sex After 40?

Do you think that the amount of sex you are having depends on your age? Are you expecting to suddenly stop enjoying sex when you reach 40? Don’t worry, nobody is judging you since there are an impressive number of people who believe that only the young are having active sexual lives.

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You can blame advertising for stuffing your mind with sexy models who scream “sex” even when they promote a cookie. Or you can be angry at the fact the whole mass-media is supporting the youth culture spreading frustration and anxiety at the thoughts of growing old.

At the same time you can just stop blaming anything and start thinking for yourself, embracing your age, your life, body, and sexuality.

Like It or Not, Life Changes

Though you should not let the TV or Social Media make you feel bad about growing older, you have to be aware that age comes with responsibility. But if you are not 16 anymore, you probably know that already.

And more responsibility might mean less time. I have to admit that I am still young and struggling with time. Sometimes I don’t know if I should choose sleep or sex. This might sound funny but it’s the reality.

What do I choose? It depends. Sometimes I put the things I need to do on hold, and take care of my sexy business.

But, between 40 and 50, you get more than lack of time. For women, these “pre-menopausal” years bring the fall of estrogen and the well-known vaginal dryness. Now, you can cry yourself to sleep about it or just realize that this is the course of life and that there is nothing a glass of wine and a good lube can’t fix.

At the same time, men start to experience erection changes. Though we are not talking about erectile dysfunction, middle-age erection dissatisfaction can have an immense negative effect on their life. So, just like women, they can cry themselves to sleep in the other room, or just live with it and with a pack of Viagra next to the bed.

So, yes, growing old brings annoying, and even depressing changes for some people. But if you realize that this is something natural and that fear and nostalgic thoughts about your youth are only stopping you from enjoying yourself, middle-age life and sex can be amazing.

Oh, and remember to have wine, lube, and Viagra…just in case!

Since We Are Not Forever Young…

…We might as well stop secretly wanting to be. Well, not secretly since Alphaville made everything public. But yes, just get over this and think about the things that you can fix.

For instance, stop worrying about how you look. Don’t get me wrong, you should take care of yourself all your life, but stop whining about the lack of firmness and the few wrinkles you have.

For everything you lack because of…life, you make up in experience, humor, kindles, intelligence and the many qualities you gained during all these years.

And when it comes to sex, no matter if you’re a man or woman, you know your body extremely well and that makes the bed experience much better.

Yes, you don’t look like you used to and you are dryer or your penis is lazier, but guess what? Everything has a solution. What kind of solution? Well, that depends on you and your issues.

Besides always having the three things mentioned before, you can use different techniques, positions and even toys. Everything is better than sitting around, unhappy complaining about life’s natural evolution.

And if you don’t believe me when I say that your sexual activities can be fantastic after 40, you can ask Joan Price, whose sex life in her 50s was much better than mine in my early 20s.

At the same time, you can join our online escort community and get in touch with people who are into mature escorts. Yes, there are many people who prefer the wiser ladies, exactly for these reasons: experience and sophistication.

Of course, besides knowing how to please a gentleman, they lived more years in their skin, they had time to understand their body and they feel confident and happy with it. As you can see you have more to learn from mature escorts than sexual techniques.

And that’s the most important aspect of getting older. You get better. At everything. So how about enjoying yourself, no matter how old you are?

Great Sex Requires Honest Communication

Great sex is strongly related to how well you know your body and how confident you are. But great sex also requires communication. Yes, it’s different for mature people that for the young ones, who believe sex is just an orgasm marathon.

I am not judging but that’s the truth: when you are young you are the slave of your hormones and you just want to bang.

Well, fortunately, erotic pleasure can be much more than banging each other. And the more you accept yourself, as well as the course of life, the better at communicating with your partner and at offering and receiving pleasure you get.

Anna Smith

Anna Smith

Anna Smith entered the adult industry in 2015. From that moment on, she has become one of the foremost writers around, using her sex industry expertise to bring her readers many fun and fact filled articles.

She is most well known for her sex advice pieces, yet also has a major interest in sexual health and other serious issues. However, this is all done with a quirky style that is unmistakably hers.

When she isn't working, Anna is a fitness fanatic, and enjoys going away with her partner for various weekend trips.
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