How You Should Handle Delayed Ejaculation

Most of us will have some kind of problem when it comes to sex in our lifetime. For those with a penis, there are a few common ones we tend to talk about. Premature ejaculation is one of them, and erectile dysfunction is another. We tend to forget about any others, but penis problems aren’t limited to just these two.

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One that doesn’t get mentioned a lot is delayed ejaculation, often referred to simply as DE or impaired ejaculation. As the name suggests, this is when it takes a long time for you to reach orgasm, or you cannot reach it at all. So how do you deal with this problem?

A closer look at delayed ejaculation

Impaired ejaculation is a pretty common penis problem to have. If you find that you take a long time to reach orgasm, you could be suffering with it. In some cases, sufferers find that they cannot reach orgasm at all, no matter how much they are stimulated.

Like many penis problems, it is one that most will experience at some point in their lifetime. However, it can also be a lifelong problem, which is why it is important to take steps to try and resolve it. Medical experts believe that DE does not post any serious risks to your health. However, it can cause problems in your relationships and sex life.

Penis problems are common. We just don't talk about them
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What are the symptoms?

If you have trouble reaching orgasm at all, or if it takes you over thirty minutes to get there, the chances are that you could have DE. This could be during sex with your partner or even when you are masturbating on your own.

There are some occasions when you might find that you can reach ejaculation perfectly fine, but then you find yourself in certain circumstances and struggle to get there. This is “situational delayed ejaculation”, and you can usually figure out what it is that triggers it.

Taking too long? You might be struggling with DE
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What can cause it?

As with many penis problems, there are many different things that can cause impaired ejaculation. Psychological factors, such as trauma, anxiety, depression, and stress might all play a factor. Difficulty at work or in your relationships might also have an impact.

There are also physical factors you may want to look into. An infection could lead to it, especially if it is a prostate or urinary infection. Low testosterone levels, heart disease, even nerve damage in your spine or penis. Certain medications can cause side effects which lead to it.

Stress is a huge problem for many penises
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Diagnosing it

While you might be reading this and thinking “this sounds like me”, you are best speaking to your doctor or a medical professional in order to reach a diagnosis on it. That way, you can get the right kind of help to enable you to deal with it.

There will be a physical examination, as well as a discussion of your symptoms. Depending on what is said, they might look further into it by running blood and urine tests to look for any infections or hormonal imbalances.

Your doctor is the best person to speak to about penis problems
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Treating DE

Obviously how the problem is treated will depend a lot on the underlying cause. It might be that they decide to medicate you for it, or that they need to run more tests to see what could help. However, in many cases they might suggest that you first make some lifestyle changes.

A large number of penis problems are actually the result of psychological issues. Addressing these issues goes a long way to fixing the problem, so you should look at removing stress in your life. Speak to your doctor and they should be able to give you recommendations for the different things you can do.

Treating delayed ejaculation starts with a trip to the doctor
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What impaired ejaculation is like

In my last serious relationship, the guy I was dating struggled with delayed ejaculation. The first time that we had sex, I put it down to nerves at sleeping with a new partner. However, over time it became clear that this wasn’t a one-off. It was a regular occurrence.

It caused a huge strain on our relationship. We both started to avoid having sex because it took so long for him to get there, which isn’t what you want at all. At first he was reluctant to seek help for it, as he felt embarrassed. Eventually he did, and things improved massively once he had.

If it takes too long it can really strain a relationship
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Opening up about delayed ejaculation

Most people don’t like to discuss their penis problems because they feel embarrassed. They worry that their doctor or partner will judge them for it. Your doctor is there to support and help you, and they are by far the best person you can talk to about it.

Delayed ejaculation is a common problem. Have you ever had difficulty with it? Let us know by leaving a comment in the box below. How are you coping with the issue?

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Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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