Why Do Women Like Rough Sex?

I remember having a couple of conversations with some of my girlfriends at our favourite coffee shop in town about the subject of sex a couple of years ago. Me and my friends were practically the girls from ‘Sex and the City’!

Woman with chain getting ready for rough sex
Woman on a black background with a whip in her hand

One of my friends mentioned to me that she loved it when her boyfriend showered her body and kisses and caressed her skin softly, as if her temple would shatter at any hard impact that she would receive. I replied back that I liked getting my hair pulled and my ass spanked.

Is the feeling mutual?

I think every, single one of us ladies like to try out the different sides of sex. There are times when I’d enjoy a night of passion where a man’s body and mine are so close to mine, we wouldn’t be able to stop kissing each other throughout the whole session. However, there are times when I want nothing more but a man to just push me onto the bed, rip off my panties and fuck me hard while his hands pin my wrists down.

There are theories that are creeping up on the internet that could explain why women sometimes have a carnal urge to get ravaged hard. Some people think that it’s because of the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ phenomenon, whereas others believe it’s due to the modern Feminist movement that we’re experiencing at the moment.

I think rough sex is something that we’ve always wanted to do. I don’t believe that there was a moment something clicked in the female’s brain when she suddenly says to herself:

‘Enough romance. I just want to fuck.’

We’ve always wanted rough sex; we just needed the right guy and atmosphere to help bring that animal out of us. When people think that some women like to be choked and spanked, they believe that something may have happened to them in their past lives or that they are damaged. This isn’t the case!

One thing that I have to say is that if a girl likes to be played rough in the bedroom, it doesn’t mean they like to be inferior in their everyday life. In psychology, it’s considered that women who enjoy having rough sex alleviate whatever kind of stress or anxiety that they have in their lives. If you have been brought up to believe that sex is dirty and that you should only do it for reproduction rather than recreation, you’d have a lot of tension built up inside you.

Either go hard or go home!

I remember having my first sexual experience with my first boyfriend and it felt really good when he all he wanted to do is to hump me against the wall. I enjoyed it. A lot. After that session, I just couldn’t get easily satisfied with soft, sensual intercourse. It’s like coffee; once you go black, you never go back!

What I find interesting as well is that you can have rough sex with a person who you’d least expect would enjoy it. I’ve met a guy who is a genuine sweetheart. He would tell me a lot of jokes, hold my hand and kiss me gently when we’re out in public.

However, once we’ve gone back to my place one night, I knew that there was a very rough side to him, but he was a bit apprehensive to show it. I decided to take him back to my room, where I began to kiss him hard as I wrapped my arms around him tightly. He got the idea, in the end, that I really enjoy hard fucking, so he just yanked off my bottoms, slid his throbbing cock inside me and made my bed shake for 2 hours straight.

I kid you not, my bed ended up on one side of the room after being placed on another side before the session began! Oh, man. After the first 2 weeks, there wasn’t a single place in my flat where we didn’t fuck. We’ve climaxed in the bathroom, the living room, the kitchen, on the kitchen table, on the balcony….yes, on the balcony.

Furthermore, there was no room for softness whenever we’ve met up with each other. Well, there were a couple of moments where I’d just wrap my legs around his waist and let him slide his shaft in and out of me, but most of the time, I often ask myself:

‘How did I not come out with any bruises yet?’

After my first sex session with him, I kept mouthing the word ‘Wow!’ when he wasn’t looking at me; it was that good!

The answer to the question

As I’ve mentioned before, many people believe that the rise of modern feminism has made women want to have more rough sex in their lives. However, if you ask me what I think about the notion, I believe that gender or social politics should not intervene our preferences in sex.

Everyone likes different kinds of intercourse and fucking, like I’ve mentioned before, so it’s not fair to give the notion that our sex culture changes with every generation that we’d go through. Sex isn’t a fashion trend that changes every season; once we like a particular style, we stick to it. So, if you ask the question:

‘Why do girls love rough sex?’

I don’t know, man. Maybe girls just love rough sex because it makes them cum!

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Zoe Jaspers has worked in the adult industry for over a year, but she has already gained a fantastic reputation in the field. As a writer, she is passionate about bringing the reader some of the most interesting blog content around.

She is possibly most famous for her erotic stories, but is equally adept at giving top quality sex advice, all the time bringing in her 'personal experiences'.

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3 thoughts on “Why Do Women Like Rough Sex?”

  1. Depends mainly on the mood, but I know many women like it rough. I dated a girl who on;y wanted rough sex, she liked to be picked up and ragged around the bedroom and even picked upside down while she a deep throating me while I munch on her.

  2. I have met a few women and not many of them like it rough, but fun. They like it slow and then fast. I am game with that.

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