Got a fetish? You aren’t alone. A lot of people have them. Sexual fetishes aren’t quite as exclusive as they used to be. Turned on by feet? Love the idea of someone whipping your ass into submission? These are all pretty common kinks to have.
This leads us to a pretty big question though. Just how common are sexual fetishes? We know that people have them… but how many people actually have a kink? Is it a minority, or are fetishes becoming more popular?
Fetishes cover pretty much everything
The thing about sexual fetishes is that they are as diverse, beautiful, and weird as we are. We can’t help what turns us on. I struggled for a long time in a previous relationship because I was desperate to try things like spanking and breath play, but my partner said that I was weird and should just stop liking it. If only things were that simple.
If you can think of it, the chances are that it is either a fetish or a kink. At the beginning of the year I talked about the A to Z of fetishes. I only covered 26 of them.
There are so many more than that. Some people get offended by the fetishes of others. I’ll be honest with you here, I don’t particularly care and I don’t understand why other people do. As long as it is between consenting adults, you can do whatever you like in private!
How many people have fetishes?
Back in 2016, Ann Summers decided to ask people about their sexual fetishes. They wanted to know just how many people like to get kinky. I’m going to point out the obvious here. Those taking a survey for Ann Summers are likely to be skewed in their views. After all, it is a lingerie and sex toy store!
That said, their findings were still surprising. They discovered that 75% of respondents had at least one fetish, with 45% of them exploring them on a weekly basis. Those numbers are pretty high, even for this survey!
What is the most interesting thing, however, is that 61% of them said that they felt there was a stigma attached to their fetish. I’m surprised by how low that number is. Everyone I have spoken to with a fetish has said that they’ve been judged for it before. Yikes!
How to handle a fetish
The chances are that at some point in your sex life, you’ll come across a fetish. This might be a fetish of your own that you want to explore or it might be one that someone else has. Either way, learning how to handle it properly can be incredibly useful.
The person with the fetish should bring it up somewhere that isn’t the bedroom. Don’t have sex on the horizon, because this puts pressure on the partner. Phrases like “I’ve love to discuss trying this fetish with you” works well, because it gives them the chance to talk about it and ask questions.
Doing research can help, so make sure that you and your partner have space to do this. Agree to meet up again at a later point and talk about what you discovered. Then you can talk about whether you’d like to go ahead with it. Be honest. If it makes you uncomfortable or scared, don’t agree just to please your partner! This is where things can go wrong. If your partner rejects your fetish, don’t hound them about it. Give them space and accept that you might not be able to explore it with them.
What are your sexual fetishes?
I have a pretty long list of sexual fetishes and kinks. Some are ones that I discovered on my own. I watch porn and go “ooh, I’d like to try that” or I discover in the act accidentally that something turns me on. There have also been times where I’ve tried a fetish with a partner and discovered that I like it almost as much as they do.
It seems that sexual fetishes are a lot more common than we might have thought. So what’s your fetish? Let me know by leaving a comment in the box below!
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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