Is Foreplay Really That Big A Deal?

For a lot of people foreplay is simply a build up to sex. We tend to see it as a bit of fun before the main event, and so we will often rush through it. We won’t take the time required to enjoy it, because really, is it that big of a deal?

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To some people the answer is no. They’d be quite happy to enjoy hard and fast fucks with no build up for the rest of their life, if they could. For others, the answer is yes. They feel that foreplay is an essential part of sex, and so if you want to enjoy it, you have to do it.

So what is the answer? And are there a few simple ways you can make foreplay exciting for when you’d rather get down to the main event?

Yes, foreplay is important

It might not be the answer you were hoping for, but foreplay is important. It is one of those things that should happen pretty much every time you have sex. If you are having a quickie you might skip it, but the majority of the time you’ll need it in order to warm up to sex.

You need that time. You won’t instantly be rock hard at the thought of sex, and if you are, it might not be the kind of hard-on you can then use to fuck your partner. Foreplay helps with that, and it will also get your partner ready. It can take women a little longer to warm up to sex, so if you want to have amazing sex, you’ll need to use your skills to turn her on before the main event.

But for a lot of people they don’t like it. They want to get down to business and enjoy sex, rather than doing what they think is wasting time. Thankfully, there are a few different things you can do in the bedroom to make it a little easier and more enjoyable for you.

Foreplay doesn't have to be a chore
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You can start it earlier

When we think of turning our partner on, we tend to imagine kissing them all over, slowly sliding our hands all over their bodies while they moan. If you aren’t a fan of foreplay and want to get them so turned on that they jump on you the moment you see them, sexting can help.

Sending a quick sext is a great way to turn your partner on and get them in the mood before you even see them. And it really does work well!

You can start the conversation with a quick “I can’t wait to see you later” and then build on that. Tell them that you can’t stop thinking about them, or maybe even say something like “remember the last time we were together?”. It will make them start thinking about sex, so that when you see each other, you can get straight down to business!

Sexting gives you a whole new way to turn them on!
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Seven minutes in heaven

If you are worried about not spending enough time on foreplay to get your partner sufficiently turned on, you can do something to make it better. In movies and films there is often a timer to add pressure and tension to the scene, and you can use this method in the bedroom.

Grab your phone and set a timer for seven minutes. For those seven minutes, you and your partner can do whatever you want to each other, but you cannot have sex. That’s right. Sex is off the table. It has to be purely foreplay.

The aim is to try and get your partner so turned on that they start begging for you to fuck them, but they will be trying to do the same to you. Those seven minutes will pass by in no time and, when the timer does go off, you’ll have some of the most explosive sex of your life!

A timer works well in movies, so why not try it in bed?
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Take instructions

Sometimes we simply don’t enjoy foreplay because we aren’t sure what our partner will like. Everybody likes different things, and so figuring out what is going to turn your partner on can be a real challenge.

So cheat. Why spend time guessing when you can ask? You can even turn it into a game. Ask them to describe how they want you to touch them. It will be like they are reading an erotic story or telling you their deepest fantasies. All you have to do is do as you are told.

It takes out the guess work and gives your partner exactly what they want. Plus, this is a fun way to enjoy dirty talk as well, so it ticks all of the boxes!

Getting clear instructions can really help
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Other fantastic sex tips!

Okay, so it might not have been the answer you were hoping for, but you now have three fantastic ways to make foreplay more exciting for you and your partner, and if that isn’t enough, then we can help.

Why not check out our fantastic sex advice blogs? You can read up about other techniques to turn her on or even discover a new sex act you’d love to try!

You can also share your own tips in the comment box below. Tell us your favourite tips or the things you think work best in the bedroom. You could really help a fellow punter out!

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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