I’ll admit that I’ve had a lot of sex in my life. The older I’ve gotten, the fewer fucks I’ve given. I’ve pushed my boundaries and tried so many things that I never thought I would. That said, sometimes there is nothing that quite hits the spot like romantic sex.
The problem is that, when people think about romantic sex, they tend to think of one word: boring. They decide that it is boring and not worth bothering with. They want excitement in the bedroom and they will get it however they can.
So my question is, does romantic sex have to be boring? I don’t think so, and I have a few suggestions for making romantic sex hot again.
Face-to-face positions
One of my last boyfriends was a huge fan of romance in the bedroom. Although I enjoyed positions like doggy style, he preferred being able to see my face. He said that it was more sensual. The problem there was that he was always suggesting missionary or cowgirl to get that face-to-face position. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
There are plenty of positions out there that allow you to see your partner’s face while you fuck. For example, the one in the gif below. Sex against a wall is a fun position because it is so exciting. Best of all, it allows you to see your partner’s face and go as hard as you want. Because you can see their face it maintains an element of romance and sensuality.
If you’d rather your partner was in control, why not have sex in a chair? Sit down and allow them to slowly seduce you. Your bodies will be close together as you have sex, and so you can really pay attention to each other. What else could you ask for?
The right kind of dirty talk
I am a huge fan of dirty talk. A quick sext or the right thing whispered in my ear during sex can make me melt. For many, the idea of using dirty talk in a romantic way isn’t something they can understand. However, there are really only a few rules to get it right.
The first is that you should be complimentary. Something like “you have a beautiful cock” or “your body is perfection” is going to go down well. It helps to address a specific part of their body, as it enhances the talk a lot.
Another thing to remember? Start your sentences with “I love”. Something like “I love the way you moan in my ear while I stroke your clit” is going to be dirty and romantic, because you are focusing entirely on the things that you love about them. Trust me and try it for yourself.
Keep it slow
Put your hand up if you have ever rushed through sex because you are eager to get to your own orgasm. Me too! I love all kinds of sex, but sometimes I am guilty of rushing through it in order to get to the pleasure of my orgasm at the end. For the best romantic sex, however, you should slow things down.
Slow and sensual thrusts can make a big difference. Concentrate on sliding your entire cock in and out slowly. If you think about it and are mindful about what you are doing, it’ll be more intimate while also feeling good.
One of the big pluses of slow sex is that you can delay your own orgasm through it. If you have a habit of blowing your load before you are ready, slowing down can help. It also means that you can put your hands to work and bring your partner closer the edge as you thrust into them.
Does romantic sex have to be boring?
I would be lying if I said that I hadn’t had boring romantic sex before. However, I have also had amazing and mindblowing sex which happened to be incredibly romantic too. It isn’t about the type of sex, but the way that you have the sex that matters the most.
Got your own tips to add a little romance to the bedroom? I’d love to hear your suggestions. Leave a comment in the box below!
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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