Most of us will, at some point, have had a one-night stand. One-night stands are often seen as the goal of many nights out. Yes, some people go out just to have fun with friends, but for some they love the idea of pulling on a night out. Except these one-night stands come with plenty of risks.
The number of risks from a one-night stand are plentiful, and yet for some reason people still believe that going on a date with an escort holds a higher risk. Why is that, and what are the differences between the two?
Alcohol isn’t a factor
The chances are that, when you choose the escort you’d like to call to arrange a date, you’ll be sober. You’ll have sound judgement when you call them, and when you get to your booking you’ll still be sober. You get to enjoy everything that happens and you’ll be fully aware of yourself and your surroundings.
How many people on a one-night stand can claim the same? Alcohol makes it difficult to judge. It impairs our decision-making skills, and a lot of the time you’ll hear about people going on one-night stands and not remembering how they got there.
This is worrying. They can’t remember anything, and often that makes them worry about their performance. Many escorts refuse to see clients who have had a drink for this very reason, as they want them in full control of themselves. But this isn’t the only concern.
Your performance isn’t the only thing at jeopardy on a night out that leads to a stranger’s bedroom. Your sexual health is too. In your drunken state, you cannot guarantee that you or your partner will think about using protection. Even if you do think about it, you might not actually pull out a condom in time.
Condoms are the only way to protect yourself from STIs and STDs, but when you are drunk wrapping your cock in a condom might be the last thing on your mind. You will be focused purely on sex, and so you might end up leaving with more than fuzzy memories.
Safe sex is a huge deal for sex workers. They aren’t about to take risks with their health, which is why a number refuse flat-out to see clients who ask for bareback services. It’s all well and good claiming you are clean, but where’s the proof? Sex workers provide and use their own condoms for safety, so you are actually far more likely to take a trip to the GUM clinic because of a one-night stand.
You know what’s on offer
One-night stands are often hit or miss. Yes, you might meet the hottest person in the club and they decide that they are going to go home with you, but there’s also the chance that they just aren’t into the same things you are in the bedroom when you get there.
However, before you even meet with your chosen escort, you’ll know if you share interests in the bedroom. On their profile they’ll talk a little about themselves, and so you can see at a glance what they are like, what their interests are, and whether you will be compatible.
You’ll also find that you’ll enjoy a judgement-free encounter with them. Escorts tend to be a good deal more understanding about things like kinks and fetishes than the average person. This doesn’t mean that you’ll get to enjoy them in their company… just that you can talk about them without being kink shamed. Try this during a one-night stand and you’ll probably be left feeling humiliated.
No strings attached!
While most one-night stands start out as no strings attached sex, they often transform into something else. If you don’t walk away with a nasty surprise like an STI or an STD, you might find your phone flooded with messages.
People can get attached after a one-night stand. You might find that they send you a message thanking you for the night. They might also turn up at the place you met often in the hopes of bumping into you. This can spoil the “no strings attached” fun and make you feel unsafe, thanks to the sudden attention.
This doesn’t happen with a date with an escort. For the escort, it is their livelihood. For you, it is just fun. The lines are clear and, should things start to change, you know that you can distance yourself from them. It makes keeping things casual so much easier!
So which is safer?
For many people without the knowledge, the immediate assumption is that a one-night stand is safer. They feel that escorts aren’t concerned with their sexual health or that they are dangerous, but more often than not you are taking a higher risk on one-night stands than on escort dates.
But what do you think? Do you feel that the higher risk comes from an alcohol-fuelled one-night stand? Let us know what you think by leaving a comment in the box below!
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.