Bad Sex: Improving Your Skills In Bed

It would be amazing if everyone managed to come and have mind-blowing sex each and every time that they jumped into bed. Unfortunately, that just isn’t the case. Sometimes, you have to accept that you are going to have bad sex… or that your skills won’t be enough to get them off.

Angry woman rejecting a sex offer from her boyfriend during a date sitting on a couch at home

The problem is that accepting it isn’t going to change anything. If you want to become better at sex you are going to have to work at it. Here on the Escort Scotland blog we give you some tips to help improve bad sex and make you better in bed.

Remember: foreplay is important

This is something I have mentioned many times before. If you are going for a quickie, then by all means, skip the foreplay. However, if you are going to have sex like you usually do, foreplay is important.

Women talk a little longer to warm up to sex than men do. For men it is relatively simple: you see something you like and your cock reacts. For women, our bodies take a some time to respond and properly prepare for your cock. So if you want us to have a good time, you are going to need to stick with foreplay for a while.

Not sure what to do? Use your lips. Press light kisses all over their body to tease them. Go slowly, and when you get close to their tits or pussy, use your hands to touch the rest of their body. It’ll really turn them on and drive them wild to see you teasing them in such a way.

It is okay to skip foreplay sometimes, but don't make it a habit
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If in doubt: try dirty talk

There is no “one size fits all” thing when it comes to sex. Although many websites online will claim that there is “one trick to make her cum!” there isn’t. Every woman is different, and so you have to figure out what it is that she likes.

However, working it out can be difficult, especially if your skills in bed aren’t great. Instead of giving her bad sex there is something you can do. All you have to do is start talking dirty.

Whispering something to her like “I want you to tell me what you like” as your hands slide all over her body is going to not only turn her on because it is dirty talk, but also show that you want to know what specifically what she likes. The chances are that she’ll tell you and so you can have a hell of a time together!

It isn't just a turn on to hear dirty talk. It actually helps you figure out what your partner wants
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Be slow, steady, and patient!

You might find something that works. Maybe she has started to squirm underneath you? Perhaps she is moaning your name and saying “yes” over and over again? Either way, if she is reacting to your touches in a positive way there is one thing that you should remember.

Do not change what you are doing. You might be tempted to go faster or press harder. You might even think of changing your tactic completely to get her to come. But don’t do it!

If what you are doing is working than stick with it. Don’t go faster or slowly. Don’t go harder and deeper. Just do exactly what she seems to like and you’ll find that it works out amazingly for you! Women can lose their orgasms really easily if you keep mixing things up so stick with it, be patient, and you will be rewarded.

Patience is one of the most important skills for you to have in the bedroom
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Don’t worry if she doesn’t come

When we think about how sex ends it tends to be with the idea that everyone has had at least one orgasm. The man will feel a sense of achievement and pride for making the woman come and the woman will be impressed by the man’s skills in bed.

One thing that can lead to bad sex is expecting your partner to orgasm. This puts a hell of a lot of pressure on them, and this might actually lead to a fake orgasm.

It is okay if your partner doesn’t come during sex. You can still have great sex without an orgasm! Work towards it and, if it doesn’t seem to be happening, don’t make her feel like she has to come. This can be a huge turn off, so relax and talk about it afterwards. It might be that she is stressed at work and so, even though your tongue felt amazing, she just wasn’t feeling it.

When women feel under pressure to come we fake it. So don't put the pressure on!
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Can you fix bad sex?

Sometimes, no matter what you do, there is just no fixing bad sex. This is mainly because the person you are fucking refuses to change. They have a very clear idea in their mind about how sex should go and they refuse to deviate from the plan.

If you want to improve you have to be flexible and open to new ideas. You have to be willing to try new things and listen. Your partner knows what feels good for them, so why not talk to them about it?

Got some stories about bad sex you want to share? You can tell us all about them by leaving a comment in the box below!

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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