For a lot of people, erectile dysfunction is something they have gotten used to. However, for some it is still a challenge. ED might seem like a simple thing to solve for those without the knowledge, but for many it is a complicated situation that can affect your self-esteem as well as your sex life.
It is often made worse because we simply have no idea about the best way to handle it. Our approach to erectile dysfunction, quite frankly, sucks. We put pressure on ourselves and on our partners to try and solve it. So how should you approach ED?
The stats about erectile dysfunction
If you are someone struggling with ED then it is important that you know that you are not alone. It is a common problem, one of the most common penis problems men have to deal with. According to the UK Health Centre, 1 in 10 men around the world are thought to struggle with it.
This is a huge number, showing that it is a common problem and so nothing to be ashamed of. But it seems that many of us are. In fact, the UK Health Centre also tells us that it is thought to cause the breakdown of 20% of relationships.
This might have something to do with the fact that only 33% of men will seek help and advice when it comes to ED. It is a common problem, and yet talking to your doctor or your partner about it seems impossible. Isn’t it about time we changed that?
Communication is the key to understanding
The best thing you can do if you are struggling with erectile dysfunction is talk to your partner or partners about it. Yes, this can be a challenging thing to do, but it is going to help them understand what is going on and how best to help you.
I have a little experience of dating those with ED, and when I first encountered it I wasn’t sure what to expect. But then my partner at the time sat me down and talked about it honestly with me to help me understand.
This stopped it being awkward. It wasn’t something I had to gloss over. Instead it was the reality of his sexual situation and something that I could help with, simply by not putting pressure on him to perform. When he struggled to maintain an erection, we’d do other things. And that is all because we talked about it.
How to talk about ED
Not sure how to sit down with your partner and approach the subject of erectile dysfunction? You aren’t alone. Plenty of people struggle, as you can see by the number of erectile dysfunction posts on the sex subReddit. So how do you do it?
When talking to your partner, make sure you sit down and talk in a non-sexual context. If you do this right before sex, you might find it is more of a challenge, so keep things sex-free if you can. Explain to them that you are currently struggling with ED and that it is something you are actively working on. If they have questions, do your best to answer them, and be honest. This will often make things run a lot smoother.
As for talking to your doctor, don’t be ashamed about it. As we have already said, it is a common problem, and your doctor will have probably encountered it before. They will be able to help you figure out whether it is a psychological or physical cause and work from there. But again, be honest. You have nothing to gain by lying about it, and often it is lifestyle changes that can solve the problem.
Common penis problems
Erectile dysfunction is one of the many common penis problems you might struggle to deal with in the bedroom. However, often the first step to resolving them is to be open and honest about it.
Take the time to sit down and talk about it. It really can make the difference, whether it is by helping your partner to understand or by explaining the situation to your doctor.
Either way, ED is a common problem and nothing to be ashamed of. There are so many different causes, and that means that it could take a while to find a solution. But when you do, you’ll find that your confidence improves massively!