How to Act on a First Date

There’s a very popular saying that goes something like this: The first impression is the last. For those who don’t understand it, this means that when you meet somebody, the way you talk, behave and respond generally defines how people perceive you from then on in.

Our minds are built in such a way that we are able to draw conclusions and judgements very quickly, without actually considering much.

This becomes even more important when it comes to meeting somebody on the first date. Chatting up somebody over the internet is quite easy, but when you are tasked with actually taking that person out on a date, there are a lot of things that you need to keep in mind in order to create the right impression.

Obviously, most men are very nervous on their first date, which gives the impetus to the woman; she is able to analyze his behavior and actions and make a mental note of how he is likely to be in his daily life. If you do manage to make a good impression, she is likely to ask you to call her up again. So, if you really want to create a good impression on a first date, here are a few things that you can do:

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Dress Well

Now, you might ask, what does your dressing have to do with the way you act? In fact, it has a lot to do with it. Your dressing determines first impressions. It is a wise idea to wear comfortable clothes that make you look good. Your dressing is also the first thing that your date is going to be looking at, so in no circumstances should you be looking anywhere below your very best, if you really want to leave an impression on your date partner.

Don’t Act Nervous

Now, it is obvious that there are going to be some nerves as you head out to meet your date. Things like accidentally throwing the pepper shaker off the table, nervously twitching your fingers or just playing around with your hands is a bad idea, and clearly indicates that you aren’t very confident. Most women don’t like men who are not confident, so it is important for you to make sure that you do not act this way.

Before you head out to meet your date, it would be a wise idea to do a small breathing exercise; sit down with your spine straight, close your eyes and take long breaths for three minutes. Breathing in and out causes oxygen to flow through your blood in a larger volume, and this acts as a natural relaxant. This not only makes you more composed and focused, but it also prevents your body from acting in a nervous fashion. If you are acting nervously around your date, you are only going to make it troublesome for yourself, and it is highly unlikely that you are going to get a follow up call.

Don’t Act Bossy

A lot of men make this mistake without even knowing it. In their attempt to act too smart and overconfident, a lot of men commit the cardinal sin of acting too bossy. For instance, you meet her at dinner, you ask her what she likes as her favorite food, and then ten minutes on, you pick out what you think she might like from the menu and give the order on her behalf as well, without even asking for her preferences. Such acts leave a very bad impression and should be avoided at all costs.

Make sure that you let her choose whatever she wants to. Try to make her feel that you actually give importance to her words, and the only way by which you can do that is to let her make choices of her own.

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Always be the Gentleman

It doesn’t matter who you really are in real life, on your first date you just have to be at your very best. As a result, you need to become the modern age personification of the true gentleman. How do you do that?

For starters, when you go to pick her up, make sure that you open the car door for her. Then, when you two reach your desired location, get out first and open the car door for her.
If you are taking her to a restaurant, pull up the chair for her so that she can be seated, and allow her to choose whatever she wants to eat first.

Now, some might consider this to be a foolish act, but for those who really know women; nothing impresses more than a polite and a gentle natured person. And, if you can be both on your first date, you are surely going to be revolving in her mind for a long period of time to come.

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Being polite leaves a much greater impression than you might imagine, and if you are capable of being on your best behavior, you can easily rest assured that an impression has been made.
Remember, women like to feel special and if you can treat her in that manner, it can only mean more plus points for you. By following these tips however, you are not guaranteed success, but you will have a better chance than most.

Practice with an Escort

A good way to practice these techniques is to take an East Ayrshire escort on a dinner date. They will really enjoy your date’ and can give you tip on where you are going right, or where you are going wrong

Martin Ward
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