Have We Really Lost Interest In Sex?

“No” might be the short answer you want to give to that question, but it seems like that answer might not be right, after a recent study has suggested that we have become so dissatisfied with our sex lives that we have just lost all interest in sex.
A bored man with no interest in sex

Are our sex lives really that bad that the idea of fucking is a turn off? We take a look at the study results and what you can do to fix your interest in sex.

National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles

The results came from the British National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles that was conducted. Otherwise known as Natsal, the study looked into the sex lives of British people from the age of 16 to their late 70s.

The questions they asked them were very personal, and covered a huge range of topics. They looked at pretty much everything, from how often they whacked off to porn to the kind of things they got up to in bed.

They basically wanted to know what kind of problems face people having sex in modern Britain, and if things have changed much from the olden days of sex to now. They were expecting things to be different, since we’ve got more access to porn, but the results are surprising.

Problems in the bedroom

A lot of people said that they had encountered at least one sex problem in the last year. When we say “a lot”, we actually mean half of the women surveyed and two fifths of the men. Those are huge numbers!

The problems people faced when it came to sex were very diverse. There was pretty much everything you could imagine, from difficulty with climax (too soon or not getting it at all) to just not being turned on by sex.

However, the main problem that people seemed to face was simply a lack of interest in sex.

No interest in sex

Roughly a third of the women surveyed said that they lacked interest in sex, with a further one in twelve saying that they had absolutely no arousal or excitement when having sex. No matter the position, whether doggy or girl on top, they just didn’t want to fuck.

The numbers for men were slightly different, with only a sixth of men saying they had no interest in sex and one in twenty four feeling no turn on by actually fucking away at a hot woman.

So what can you do to improve your interest in sex? First, you need to address the issue. If you aren’t turned on by having sex, is it because of the partner you are having sex with? Do you simply not find them attractive anymore? If that’s the case, you need to figure out how you can change that.

If you have no interest in sex, try setting aside a specific time to fuck. Arranging a set time for you to have sex with your partner can actually build the anticipation, which helps turn you on. That could be all you need to help your interest in sex.

Orgasm problems

Some of the people surveyed said that they had no interest in sex because they had problems with their orgasm. For some, it was that their climax came too soon, while others just couldn’t get there at all.

15% of the men surveyed said that they had premature ejaculation problems, and that was along with the one in eight men who just couldn’t get it up in the first place. If this is a problem you experience, speak to your doctor about it. They might have some great ideas to help. If you’d rather not, don’t worry too much about it. A lot of the problems men experience with their cocks, such as coming too soon or not keeping it up, come from the worry that they won’t live up to their expectations. Try to get out of your head and you’ll notice a difference, even if it is a small one.

One in six said that they simply didn’t get to orgasm, or too so long to get there that their partner had finished and cleaned themselves up before they were even close to getting off. If that’s the case, you absolutely need to talk to your partner. It could be that you need a little extra attention, like an erotic massage and a great blowjob, to help you get there.

Lack of communication

It is hardly surprising that a lack of communication was the source of many of the problems people surveyed experienced in the bedroom. For whatever reason, we are happy to talk about sex with friends but not with our partners.

Ten per cent of the men surveyed and 7 per cent of the women said that they were unsure of their partner’s likes and dislikes in bed, as they didn’t talk about the things that turn them on and turn them off while they’re going at it.

The solution for this might sound simple, but it is easier said than done. Trying to talk to your partner about sex can be really challenging, especially if you or they have a fetish they are embarrassed about. The best time to talk about sex is after you’ve had it. You are feeling more relaxed and at ease, which makes it the perfect time to reveal those dirty secrets.

Loving young nude erotic sensual couple in bedWhatever your partner confesses their deepest, darkest desire to be, don’t judge them for it. Reacting negatively to a fantasy can cause a hell of a lot of harm, as your partner won’t want to share anything else with you out of fear of rejection. Even if it isn’t something you are interested in, at least try to understand and talk to them about it. You can be clear that it isn’t something you want to do while still letting them have that fantasy.

Do we enjoy sex?

A lot of these results have me wondering if people really love sex. Sure, here on the Escort Scotland forum and on the blog we talk about it a lot, but we don’t seem to match the results of the survey.

Have we really lost interest in sex? From a personal point of view, I can say that I haven’t. If anything, my interest in sex is bigger and better than ever. Have you found the same?

You can tell us what you think on the Escort Scotland forum, or you could simply leave a comment in the box below. Are you still interested in sex, or have you found your sex drive dwindling lately? Let us know.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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