{"id":3042,"date":"2016-09-29T10:00:19","date_gmt":"2016-09-29T09:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.escort-scotland.com\/blog\/?p=3042"},"modified":"2016-09-27T11:12:13","modified_gmt":"2016-09-27T10:12:13","slug":"worst-flirting-text-mistakes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.escort-scotland.com\/blog\/worst-flirting-text-mistakes\/","title":{"rendered":"The Five Worst Text Flirting Mistakes You Can Make"},"content":{"rendered":"

We have all been in that position. We fancy someone and we want to send them a text to them for the first time. We want our conversation to sound funny, yet natural. What we don’t want to do is make a complete ass out of ourselves, and to be fair, that is pretty easy to do.<\/p>\n

\"Closeup<\/a><\/p>\n

The main problem is the whole ‘not sounding too keen’ thing. Now, to be fair, I can’t help you on that one. It is as tough as they come, and I question whether any of us ever get it truly right.<\/p>\n

However, it seems there are five big mistakes that people do make<\/p>\n

The nuggets come from Business Insider\u00a0, sociologist Eric Klinenberg (who wrote a book with comedian and actor Aziz Ansari about modern-day dating)
\nWe hope they come in useful for you. <\/p>\n

1) Hey<\/h2>\n

\"Hey<\/a><\/p>\n

69ing_<\/a><\/p>\n

The first lesson is never send a generic ‘hey’ text that has nothing else accompanying it.<\/p>\n

“It’s a very confusing and strange message and tells people nothing.”<\/p>\n

2) Acting Like a Secretary<\/h2>\n

\"Text<\/a><\/p>\n

Now, not in a dirty way. If you have got that far, you probably aren’t that bad at texting. They mean more like going round and round trying to schedule a date with someone you hardly know.<\/p>\n

Here are a few examples<\/p>\n

“‘Oh can we meet at Starbucks on 4pm on Tuesday?’<\/p>\n

“‘Oh no 4pm on Tuesday doesn’t work for me, how about 6pm on Monday for a drink?’<\/p>\n

“‘Oh Monday I’ve got spinning class, I can’t make that.’<\/p>\n

“Three or four of those exchanges and all the energy is sapped out and people just forget it and ‘swipe left’ and move on to the next person.”<\/p>\n

3) Overly Long Texts<\/h2>\n

\"Long<\/a><\/p>\n

There is a big difference between a generic ‘hey’, and writing War and Peace.<\/p>\n

“Really, just a couple of sentences are ideal.<\/p>\n

“One thing we learned is a very strong opening text is something that recognises both the name of the person and says something which makes it clear you know who he or she is.<\/p>\n

“If you can do all that in a witty way, it’s a bonus.”<\/p>\n

4) Poor Grammar and Spelling<\/h2>\n

A major issue for many in the fledging stages of a relationship is if someone sounds stupid, Klinenberg urges us to get this right with this brutal piece of advice.
\n“Maybe you should study a little bit more before you ask someone out via text.”<\/p>\n

Obviously this doesn’t take into account the fact that some people may have issues which affect their spelling, like dyslexia, but sadly it is a brutal world, especially when you are texting!<\/p>\n

5) Don’t Ask To ‘Hang out’<\/h2>\n

\"Text<\/a><\/p>\n

Finally, don’t ask someone if they want to ‘hang out.’<\/p>\n

“No one has any idea what that means. Do you want to watch a game? Do you want a beer? Are you trying to hook up? Are you taking them to meet your friends or parents? It’s totally ambiguous.<\/p>\n

“And no one wants ambiguity when they’re trying to text and make plans.”<\/p>\n

So come on, are you guilty of any of these? Or none at all? Let us know in the poll below!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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